Think about it, when you’re 40 pounds overweight you probably can think back to a time when the muffin top started to peek over the waistband and your pants got a little snug. That was the moment to seize and change course. I think about this more often these days, not because I’m overweight, but because my marriage is ending. I feel like it was in the mail for several years. Was there a moment that things started to tip this way? What was it? How do I recognize it if it appears in future relationships? Maybe there’s nothing to be done without over-examining everything, every strange look, every sigh.
If only there were some sign like the ones below that would pop up at that moment, but what would it look like?
As a seasoned veteran dater I can say only this regarding those small signs:
ReplyDeleteThe small ones are the easiest to ignore.
Enjoy the moment, the person, while it lasts. Don't get caught up in the minutia. It can be taken away at any moment, whether it be months or years. The end will always be painful, whether separated by deception, death or divorce.
Much love to you, dear friend, in this difficult time.
Sometimes better to ignore the signs that are an insult to ones intelligence. Go with your gut feelings and use good common sense.
ReplyDeleteMarriage...... one can go through some very painful moments. These moments can pass. There can be bright sunshine on the other side and a great deal of personal growth. One starts to feel renewed. Always good to make a list with a line down the middle. The good, the bad and what one is willing to change, otherwise the bad habits will continue to follow.
Carefully pick and choose your friends, make your own decisions and don't be easily swayed by others. Good luck and stay in touch.
Been There!
Sandra